im stuck and dont want to hurt anyones feelings BUT and Big BUT…….
im 6 weeks pregnant and my husband has made it very clear he wants our child if we have a boy to somehow be named after his dad.
I am totally aginst this for more than one reason.

first ~ his dads name is Ervin Ray. i hate the name. it sounds redneck, and i just dont want to have a hil billy named child when my other three are more common modern names.
I dont like the sound of it what so ever.

second ~ my husband tries to say to it doesnt have to be exactly Ervin Ray but some how related so he has brought up the name Raymond i just dont like that name at all. he mentioned Erwin dont like that either.

third ~ his dad is a real jerk to me and is somewhat a jerk to everyone in general. he is a grouch in general always only has negative things to say. always has to throw it in your face what you could have done better, tells you you should be like him and work 3 job and dont work about having family time, just pay the bills like he did. he starts arguements over stupid crap and talks crap wispering thinking i cant hear him when im 10 feet away. I cant say i hate the man cause he is my father in law but i am no where close to ever being his friend to be sweet about it.

and fourth~ my husband brother is a JR and has the same name. his brother is a low life that doesnt do a thing to help himself. he has done some seriously f-cked up things and has done time for them and he disgustes me. we dont associate with him hardly ever, not holidays or anything. but i dont want my child having a name after my husband dad and i see my son and think of his brother. im afraid i would be turned off my child. and to make it worse im due the same month as his brothers birthday.

what would you do?
i have said probably the closest i could do would be
Christopher Ray ( christopher being my husband middle name) but i would not be happy about it
i have mentioned Ryan as it has the letters ray in it but he says no cause my aunts husband is ryan though they live 5 hours away and we see them once a year. or ever Rylan possibly but he says no to both.

i dont want to upset my husband saying i just cant name my child after his father cause he would be upset very upset but this is a life long decision and cant be taken lightly.

PLEASE GIVE ME SOME ADVICE.
OH MY OTHER KIDS ARE
Thomas Isiac
Brianna Nicole
Ashlee Lynn

all named after family